I’ve been married for 10 years. When I met my husband He worked for an insurance company and there was a lady who was doing her national service there. When we started dating I found out about they had been having a thing.
I found out because on one occasion a colleague of his, who didn’t know we were dating, passed a loose comment. Anyway I found a wonderful man in him. His past was not going to be my business. About 8 months after dating him, I fell pregnant so we did a quick wedding. After a year of marriage he left his job and started his own business.
And can you believe he hired this lady as his coordinator. I was not comfortable with it. Deep down I was so concerned. But I decided to be the bigger person and not say a word. One evening they went for a program together.
Right on Facebook there were pictures of the two of them. Smiling at each other. A friend brought my attention to it. I still refused to make it an issue. I passed a comment one day in bed saying I wasn’t ok with how close they are.
He told me to get used to it because she’s his biggest support system and can’t function without her. Again, I decided that since I had no proof I won’t argue.
Just this Sunday that passed my sister called from US. We were planning our mum’s 70th. My phone went off so she called me back on my husband’s phone. We do this often. I was chatting to her when he received a message from this lady. It read ‘lol.
She better not stop u today Daddy. Ok Waiting. Luv ya’. I felt so so so so so sick instantly. I had never before snooped in my husband’s phone. I clicked on the message. And saw what he had send to her previously. He wrote ‘the devil is in the room. Will call u back. Daddy wants u to wear the small blue shorts’.
After 10 good years of serving this man. I’m home this week. It feels like a death. My heart is broken. Soon as he leaves for work and I drop the kids I come home and I cry and cry and cry. How can he be so wicked to me? I have still not brought this up with him. I’m in a daze and so sick and hurting so badly.